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So, I recently moved back in with the parents after being gone for three and a half years, I am 20 now. The reason I moved in is because my husband and I separated; although my boyfriend and I are still together and very happy. Trying to explain to my parents that my boyfriend had nothing to do with my marriage not working has been difficult. (I do want to say that they have still allowed boyfriend to live in the house too.) They blame the poly for being why husband and I didn't work out and now I don't feel comfortable telling them about my relationship with my girlfriend. Is this an issue for anyone else? Having to deal with parents and poly because you still live with them or they are more involved in your lives than perhaps older poly individuals who are more independent.

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lydiasings
Nov. 12th, 2007 01:16 am (UTC)
So, I recently moved back in with the parents after being gone for three and a half years, I am 20 now.
Hi, I just needed to comment when I saw that first line. I recently moved back in with my parents and am 20 too, so sympathy here. (I moved in due to being too ill to work)

My parents know I'm poly, and I'm bi, but I try not to shove it in their faces. I have FWBs over occasionally to chat to and spend a little time with, but don't have sex with them in my parents' house because parents would really die and I don't want that hanging over me while I'm having fun! I try to go over to their places. It is a problem.

I think it's an awfully big thing for your parents to get used to, tbh, especially if you have one of your partners living with you there. Um, sorry if I'm not being any help here, I just wanted to comment because of being in a similar situation. I think you have to try and tell your parents, 'OK, I know you don't think this is a good idea, but I feel it's right for me' and so on. They might just need reassurance that this is good, and you know that but they don't.
cicadadrone
Nov. 12th, 2007 01:48 am (UTC)
I have given them the 'what makes me happy' talk, and in all honesty they have been really cool. They are at the 'don't get it but won't stop you' phase of acceptance. And that is cool with me. I also try not to throw it in their faces, as much out of respect as anything else.

On a side, sorry that you are ill. I also am too sick to work and think it licks balls. So, hang in there. If you ever want to commiserate, feel free to drop me a line.
lydiasings
Nov. 12th, 2007 01:57 am (UTC)
My parents are pretty much the same, they just do the 'long looks that make me feel like shit' thing :(
Cool, thanks, do you want to join in the mad rant that is my journal?
cicadadrone
Nov. 12th, 2007 03:12 am (UTC)
I would love to. You seem right up my alley.
saerlaith
Nov. 12th, 2007 03:26 am (UTC)
I tried to tell my mother I was poly once, but she took that about as well as the whole 'I happen to like girls' thing. Meaning, I almost got disowned and was ignored until I let the thing drop. Fortunately, I didn't tell her who my boyfriend is.. she still thinks he's my gay best-friend. Oh, well.
Thank gods I live on the other side of the country!
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